A limiting belief is something you believe to be true about yourself, about others, or about the world that limits you in some way. We all have them, some are known to us, the others unknown and buried in our subconscious mind.
The subconscious is the realm of our automatic and habitual thought patterns and beliefs. The body functions like heart rate; breathing; digestion; our learned body movements happen without us having to consciously think about it. One characteristic of the subconscious is that being habitual and seeing unknown as scary, it is typically resistant to change through normal conscious processes.
The birth of limiting beliefs
Most of our habits and emotional conditioning were programmed during the first seven years of our life, usually by our interactions with and experience from how our parents, teachers, peers, TV, etc. We learn subconsciously how to act and what happens when we are happy or angry, what it takes to make money, how best to express love, when it’s safe to laugh, to sing, to shine… and when it’s not.
Taking this example: as a little boy, you may have been hurt and wanted to be comforted by your father. The response you may have received from him, could have been “Boys don’t cry” or “Don’t be a wuss” and be sent away.
In order to not feel this way again, protect yourself from being hurt or in hope of being accepted by your father, you may have subconsciously decided that you would keep all your emotions to yourself. After some time, that action will become a subconscious learning.
Some other examples of common limiting beliefs are “I need to be perfect in order to be loved”, “I must not be like my mum”, “I am not good enough”,”life is a struggle”.
Whatever we believe and think becomes our reality. We will adapt our behaviour in order to achieve feeling a certain way or not feeling another. This constrains the expression of our authentic deeper selves. We may become over-achievers, display addictive or avoidance behaviour.
Working on limiting beliefs using Kinesiology
It is important to align our subconscious beliefs with our conscious ones if we wish to achieve a fulfilling career, relationship and other goals. Working on limiting beliefs can help us “see” in a new way, we become less reactive to triggers and are able to respond more appropriately.
Using muscle monitoring as biofeedback mechanism, Kinesiology can directly tap into the subconscious and what is unknown to you, to help you identify what your hidden programs may be and their origins.
Bringing awareness to these beliefs is the first step to let them dissolve. Using various techniques such as positive affirmations, guided meditation, felt sense and energetic work, we can then “de-stress” the limiting belief and re-write new more empowering programs.
A good place to start, if you want to touch on your conscious beliefs is to ask yourself:
– What do I remember my parent(s) saying to me as a child about work, money, weight, showing emotions?
– What beliefs do they have that I probably absorbed as child?
Another way is to listen to your self-talk, that inner voice that is talking to you all day, and just write down whatever comes up.
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